For my family and friends ™ (haolegirl) wrote,
For my family and friends ™


I received this email today:

"Aloha mai e ke hoa,

I would very much like to correspond with someone from your hui about the hapa controversy. A colleague and I (both hapahaole) have been researching the historical and contemporary use of this label in and out of Hawaii nei.

Mahalo for your time and any mana'o you could share,


Sometimes it's difficult to tell if the person is genuine or not and when they use olelo oiwi I am suspicious because I know many people who know Hawaiian yet are hypocrits and/or alamihi crabs. Unfortunately sometimes people feel the need to lie in order to get what they want from others. Of course I'm not saying that this person is lying but one never knows when dealing with an issue that creates such hostility, anger, and/or bitterness. So as usual I will respond with a generic response though usually I do not respond.

That is, the "controversy" will not go away which is a good thing. Unfortunately some people think that once it's studied and once people say that they "understand" that it will go away. It doesn't work out that way.

As for me being opinionated about it... it's common for Hawaiian women to be vocal and/or powerful. Even powerful which seems to be unwelcome in the Western World even with their rendition of Women's Power called Feminism. To this day if a woman wants breast implants other women judge her even if it's her choice. Or when it comes to something trivial as hair color: If a woman is a blonde oftentimes she is criticized by some so-called "Feminists" when it is her choice to be a blonde. (Hypocrisy at its finest.)

Queen Kaahamanu is a good example of how powerful Hawaiian women are and/or can be. Then you have those colonized Hawaiians who hypocritically criticize vocal Hawaiian women when it is part of the Hawaiian culture for Hawaiian women to be vocal. Then there are those hypocritical Hawaiians who criticize non-Hawaiians for co-opting part or parts of the Hawaiian language then turn around and co-opt part or parts of the White Man's World. For example, look at the computers that they are using to bitch about the White Man's World. Of course these hypocritical Hawaiians get upset at me but it's not my fault that they are hypocrits.

Anyway it's email like the one that I received today that makes me wonder about people. Sometimes. Of course I get alot of people upset but that is not on me. Instead their reaction reflects who they are. That is... oftentimes they are the guilty one(s). Guilty because I point out that when non-Hawaiians use the Hawaiian word "hapa" they are stepping on Hawaiians. Guilty when I point out that hypocritical Hawaiians criticize the White Man yet use the White Man's Computer. They feel guilty. Perhaps ashamed and/or embarrassed too? That is why they respond the way that they do but it was me I wouldn't be focusing on my guilt. Instead I would be asking myself, "How can I change that?" Unfortunately many people focus on how others perceive them and/or they want approval from their peers. That is... they don't want to feel "alone." Denial is imminent as their guilt and hypocrisy cloak them.

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