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In an article in today's paper a Hawaiian man allegedly killed his Hawaiian girlfriend who was the mother of his children. Of course I know that some Hawaiian men reading this post will be very upset so consider themselves WARNED LOL

That is why I do not like many Hawaiian men. They do not know how to treat Hawaiian women. They disrespect Hawaiian women while respecting other women.

They treat Filipino women better.

They treat Haole women better.

They treat Japanese women better.

(I could go on and on naming other ethnicities but it's not solely about ethnicity(ies.) It's about respect.)

While they treat Hawaiian women like dirt and/or WORSE than dirt.

Don't lie now. Look at yourself in the mirror and tell me what you see.

Obviously these Hawaiian men who disrespect Hawaiian women should be exposed for the asshole pricks that they are. If that is you then of course you WILL be offended LOL and RIGHTFULLY SO.

Anyway I know this for a fact so don't lie! And I know that when some Hawaiian men read this they will feel offended. GOOD! They should treat Hawaiian women like the princesses and queens that they are.

Anyway this is a sad story but it shows how some Hawaiian men treat Hawaiian women... like dirt! My personal opinion (actually all of this is my opinion LOL) is that many Hawaiian men are WEAK. Many are on drugs. Many are in JAIL. Many abandon their children. Where are they when I need/needed them? They are/were GONE (LOL) So while they act o ka stupid many Hawaiian women not just myself are forced to protect ourselves. Many get upset at us for being strong but it's not as though we have a choice. Seriously. Sometimes strong people are strong because they HAVE TO BE.

And I am NOT referring to those Hawaiian women who abandon their children. That's mentally AND physically hurting a child and I have NO respect for any woman who abandons their child or children. There is NO excuse for such behavior and will NOT be excused. I have NO respect for child abandoners male AND female irrelevant of ethnicity. I despise them. Period.

Anyway they are not men. They are MICE.

So the question is... "Are you a man or a mouse?"


Here... I will teach Hawaiian men to be men *rolling eyes* and teach them to treat Hawaiian women with respect or else I will write about it in my blog *LOL*

All hate email can be sent to idontgive@shit.com. Mahalo.

Anyway here is the sad article:





Boyfriend is held in Molokai killing

The female victim's family says that she loved her children


By Gary T. Kubota


WAILUKU >> A 22-year-old Molokai woman's death has been classified as a homicide following an autopsy yesterday in Honolulu.

Her 24-year-old boyfriend, Mandan Kamai, was charged with manslaughter and abuse of a household member, Maui police Detective Tim Gapero said.

Gapero said the autopsy showed the death of 22-year-old Olakalani Mollena was due to "a blunt force injury to the head."

Mollena had two children with Kamae, including one she had given birth to on April 18.

Police responded to a call of "a fight in progress" at 11:36 p.m. Saturday at the Hotel Molokai and found Mollena lying on the shoulder of a nearby road, Gapero said.

Mollena was taken to Molokai General Hospital and later flown to the Queen's Medical Center on Oahu, where she died at 3:54 a.m. Sunday.

Kamai, arrested about 1 a.m. Sunday, was flown to the Valley Isle and is being held by police.

Mollena and Kamai, a boxer, had been living with her parents in Hoolehua, and she had been working at three jobs to keep the family together, said her aunt Lauren Naki.

"It's a tragedy, a devastating tragedy. She was very, very dear to us," Naki said.

"I just pray and hope that justice is done in this case."

Naki said she had gone with her mother for dinner at the Hotel Molokai, where there was a concert Saturday night, and had seen Mollena with Kamai.

"She was asking him to dance," Naki said.

Naki said when she was walking out of the Hotel Molokai, she saw an ambulance and found out her niece had been injured.

Naki said she took care of Mollena as a child and knew her as an adult who was "always happy."

"Even when everything was not going good with her relationship or whatever happened in her life, it never showed," Naki said.

Naki said Mollena had a daughter, now 7, at an early age, and she loved her children.

She said Mollena was the type of person who was reliable and would help her family organizing special occasions and also helped her grandmother.

"She would come up and mow the lawn for my mom," Naki said. "Anything that needed to be done, she did it."

Mollena was interviewed in a story in the Honolulu Star-Bulletin last August when she had difficulty getting direct flights between Molokai and Honolulu to take her infant son on monthly visits to a children's hospital on Oahu.

Her infant child Kamalinokekaneokala, then 1 1/2 months old, had been born five weeks premature without his lungs fully developed and had to be hooked up to an oxygen tank while on the flight.

Melvin Mollena, her stepfather, said the infant, now about 11 months old, is doing well.

Malia Pierce, a coordinator at a Molokai shelter for battered women called Hale Hoomalu, said domestic violence is a problem on the island.

"The number of unreported cases far exceeds the number of reported cases," she said.

Pierce said typically, the victim will return to the abusive partner seven to nine times before making a decision to leave the relationship, if ever.

She said her advice is for the woman to seek help by calling Alternatives to Violence to seek protection and help, at 553-3202.

Seen at http://starbulletin.com/2005/05/31/news/story5.html

Comments

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archon_ramie
May. 31st, 2005 07:43 pm (UTC)
Enh, women are the same no matter what ethnic background. Just like men are all the same. A bitch is a bitch and an asshole is an asshole. Niggers, chinks, spics, honkies, limeys, micks, flips, etc, all the same.

We are all one. (to quote the great Genki Sudo.)
haolegirl
May. 31st, 2005 07:48 pm (UTC)
That's true about people being people but when I read that article about the murder it really really made me sad plus they have kids together. She probably trusted him too so I wrote this out of sadness. Pure sadness.
archon_ramie
May. 31st, 2005 07:49 pm (UTC)
Oh yeah. It's definitely a tragedy, and that guy is definitely an asshole. Hopefully he'll get what he deserves and more.
haolegirl
Jun. 1st, 2005 02:49 am (UTC)
Yeah... sometimes I get so carried away that I upset myself in the end. I feel so bad for the girl and her kids though. How sad.
yeloson
May. 31st, 2005 07:56 pm (UTC)
People always turn self hate on those closest to them.
haolegirl
Jun. 1st, 2005 03:09 am (UTC)
True and some of us internalize it too.
pradagirl
May. 31st, 2005 09:48 pm (UTC)
Pardon my ignorance...but what is the difference between a Hawaiian woman and a Haole woman?
haolegirl
May. 31st, 2005 10:02 pm (UTC)
Oh... a Hawaiian woman is a female who is Hawaiian. A Haole woman is a female who is white, American, or European.

A woman can be both though... like me. I am Hawaiian and Haole but when I wrote Haole woman I meant a female who is white, American, or European and who is not Hawaiian.
kalua
Jun. 1st, 2005 03:41 pm (UTC)
I love hawaiian women. I love the full figured real woman. Kind, gentle until the titah comes out. High family values. Beautiful brown skin waihene. sweet lips curvy hips. (especialy in a Queen Emma cut muumuu. Yummm)And lucioous brown eyes that you can stare into for an eternity.

I just want a nice hawaiian women that can make some "Broke da mouth Kalua pig and cabbage" ahhhhhh almost better than sex.
da_blessed_one
Jun. 3rd, 2005 09:14 am (UTC)
personally known
Okay first off, the one guy that stereo-typed "Hawaiian Men" shows great ignorance. Yeah there is a large number of domestic abuse here in Hawaii.... However there's domestic violence everywhere. Especially in lower-class, minority areas all over the U.S. not excluding Moloka'i. I know this man and that woman personally. I wasn't there and I can't say I actually saw what happened. In fact I'm sure he is to blame for the deadly blow, because I know his strength. Although I don't think he hit her with the intent to kill her. I'm not saying that it's okay for a man to strike a woman, nor is it okay for a woman to strike a man. I don't think that this was a case of constant spousal abuse. Yes they have Children together and it is such a heart-aching reality. However this case is not much different from any other. My prayers and Blessing are with Olaka's family and friends, especially their children.

I've known this man to be a very feared/respected man because of his strengths as a boxer. His whole family is viewed that way. I personally don't know of him being abusive to past girlfriends which leads me to believe that this wasn't just another "Hawaiian guy" beating on his girlfriend. There was a fight. Unfortunately it went too far. And now children are left without their mother or their father.

I think it's fine for everyone to have an opinion. But there's no need to be stereotypical and put a certain race of men down. I personally have been with my 1/2 "Hawaiian guy" for 8 years. He's from the same island and he has never even raised a hand to me. Even when things got heated and I've hit him........ Never ever would he do that. I don't think it's fair to say that "Hawaiian Men" don't treat their woman like the princess' and queens that they are. I can honestly say that I know more "Hawaiian Men" that are NOT abusers, than those that are. I also disagree that "Hawaiian Men" treat women of other race's with more respect. You can't even say that here in Hawaii. Most of us are of mixed race. And there is NO way you can say that if a "Hawaiian guy" us with a Haole (caucasian) girl he treats her better. If he's an abuser, he's an abuser. Abuse doesn't discriminate.
haolegirl
Jun. 3rd, 2005 05:32 pm (UTC)
Re: personally known
"In fact I'm sure he is to blame for the deadly blow, because I know his strength. Although I don't think he hit her with the intent to kill her. I'm not saying that it's okay for a man to strike a woman, nor is it okay for a woman to strike a man. I don't think that this was a case of constant spousal abuse. Yes they have Children together and it is such a heart-aching reality. However this case is not much different from any other. My prayers and Blessing are with Olaka's family and friends, especially their children."

Well the bottom line is that he did kill her.

"I personally don't know of him being abusive to past girlfriends which leads me to believe that this wasn't just another "Hawaiian guy" beating on his girlfriend. There was a fight. Unfortunately it went too far. And now children are left without their mother or their father."

Yes... but he still killed her and I feel bad for her and for her kids.

" think it's fine for everyone to have an opinion. But there's no need to be stereotypical and put a certain race of men down."

I dont think I did that. The title of my entry was "On SOME Hawaiian men."


"I personally have been with my 1/2 "Hawaiian guy" for 8 years. He's from the same island and he has never even raised a hand to me. Even when things got heated and I've hit him........ Never ever would he do that."

That's great for you but I personally know Hawaiian men who don't do thst.

"I don't think it's fair to say that "Hawaiian Men" don't treat their woman like the princess' and queens that they are."

Well I did state this:

"That is why I do not like many Hawaiian men. They do not know how to treat Hawaiian women. They disrespect Hawaiian women while respecting other women.

They treat Filipino women better.

They treat Haole women better.

They treat Japanese women better."

I didn't state that all Hawaiian men are like that. I stated "Many."


"I can honestly say that I know more "Hawaiian Men" that are NOT abusers, than those that are."

That may be true in your experience but I wasn't referring to just domestic abuse and domestic violence. It's about treating Hawaiian women with respect. I'm curious. Are you Hawaiian? Or let me guess... are you Filipino?

"I also disagree that "Hawaiian Men" treat women of other race's with more respect. You can't even say that here in Hawaii."

Are you Hawaiian? Or are you Filipino?

"Most of us are of mixed race."

Yes... including me and I've noticed that some Hawaiian men treat Hawaiian women worse than dirt. Please tell me if you are Hawaiian or not.

"And there is NO way you can say that if a "Hawaiian guy" us with a Haole (caucasian) girl he treats her better. If he's an abuser, he's an abuser. Abuse doesn't discriminate."

True... that abuse has no color, race, gender, nor religion but I wasn't only talking about abuse. I was talking about respect.






da_blessed_one
Jun. 3rd, 2005 07:07 pm (UTC)
Re: personally known
Yes I am Hawaiian. I'm Half Hawaiian, My father is 50% Hawaiian 50% Caucasian and my mother is 50% Hawaiian and 50% Filipino. Which would make me 50% Hawaiian, 25% Filipino and 25% Caucasian. What does my Ethnicity have to do with any of this. Further more What are you??? Your ID is "Haole Girl" So are you just Haole???

And to clarify..... I did state that he did it. I also believe that justice needs to be served. I did state that it is a very sad story, and my sympathy and condolence to her family and her children.

Yes it is my personal experience in knowing more Hawaiian men that treat Hawaiian women with respect. All of my comments are based on my personal Opinion and experiences. As are yours.

Funny how you do seem very adamant on proving my ethnicity to be other than Hawaiian. I'm curious to know what your point is now that you know that I am Hawaiian, Filipino & Caucasian??? In closing I pray that you may have better experience with "Hawaiian men" respecting you Haole girl. Maybe you should just stick to Haole men. (Haole=foreign from Hawaii)
haolegirl
Jun. 3rd, 2005 07:18 pm (UTC)
Re: personally known
"Yes I am Hawaiian. I'm Half Hawaiian, My father is 50% Hawaiian 50% Caucasian and my mother is 50% Hawaiian and 50% Filipino. Which would make me 50% Hawaiian, 25% Filipino and 25% Caucasian." What does my Ethnicity have to do with any of this."

That is why I asked because sometimes when I write something or say something the people who are most offended are the ones who are the ethnicity(ies) that I write about but like you said... you have your experiences and I have mine. So far I haven't met many "good" Hawaiian men though there are many but one Hawaiian man who disrespects Hawaiian women is one too many. Also I stated that it wasn't about ethnicity... it was about respect. It was here: "(I could go on and on naming other ethnicities but it's not solely about ethnicity(ies.) It's about respect.)" So I tried to make it clear that it's about respect not only on ethnicity.

"Further more What are you??? Your ID is "Haole Girl" So are you just Haole??? "


No... I'm mixed: English, Hawaiian, Chinese, and Portuguese. Haole Girl has been one of my nicknames.

"And to clarify..... I did state that he did it. I also believe that justice needs to be served. I did state that it is a very sad story, and my sympathy and condolence to her family and her children."

True... you did. I was very sad though when I read that article and that is why I wrote that post. Because I was sad that that girl was killed and she left kids behind. I cannot imagine how they feel and will feel for the rest of their life. It still makes me sad thinking about it.

"Yes it is my personal experience in knowing more Hawaiian men that treat Hawaiian women with respect. All of my comments are based on my personal Opinion and experiences. As are yours."

True... and that is why I am careful with my words because not ALL Hawaiian men are alike. I also don't know ALL Hawaiian men.

"Funny how you do seem very adamant on proving my ethnicity to be other than Hawaiian. I'm curious to know what your point is now that you know that I am Hawaiian, Filipino & Caucasian???"

It's just been my observations and experiences over the years. I'm older too (38) not in my 20s so I have been around. Lately I have noticed that the younger Hawaiian men are marrying non-Hawaiian women which I have no problem with. Its how they treat Hawaiian women which I have a problem with because as you know most Hawaiians are mixed. I know that because I am mixed too due to my ancestors but it still bothers me how some Hawaiian men treat Hawaiian women. Of course I can only speak for myself but it frustrates me because I hope to be a mother one day and I would hope that my daughter(s) who will be Hawaiian wont be dissed by Hawaiian men as I have noticed many do now to Hawaiian women.

"In closing I pray that you may have better experience with "Hawaiian men" respecting you Haole girl. Maybe you should just stick to Haole men. (Haole=foreign from Hawaii)"

Actually I'm married... to a Haole but thanks. I hope that some Hawaiian men read my blog and maybe just maybe improve as I try to treat respectable people respectfully. Im not perfect either so it's not like I dont disrespect other Hawaiians because at times I have without realizing it so I am more careful now. Or at least I try to be. I also hope that Hawaiian men are more careful with Hawaiian women too. Thanks for taking the time out to respond.

da_blessed_one
Jun. 3rd, 2005 08:19 pm (UTC)
Re: personally known
I agree with you, in hopes that Hawaiian men will read this and do their best to improve on the reputation that they have. I wish you the best of luck in your motherhood.

It is a very sad reality that there are many stereotypes of Hawaiian people in General........

"Hawaiian People are lazy........."
"Hawaiian Men are abusive........."
"Hawaiian people are fat.........."
"All Hawaiians dance hula........."
"Hawaiians are ignorant..........."

I can go on and on.... but there are those stereotypes in any ethnicity (aside from maybe the hula thing) with different variations for different culture or ethnicity. I know choke (plenty) guys that are abusers and they are considered Hawaiians or "Local boys" yet they are pure Portuguese, or Filipino, or Japanese. Or maybe they are 1/2 or part, yet they are considered to be "Hawaiians". Either way an abuser is an abuser is an abuser. As is a disrespectful person, or a person who is disrespectful to Hawaiian women.

A little off topic: you take a person that's 1/2 Hawaiian, 1/2 Black and they are ususally just considered to be "popolo" or referred to as "da black guy/girl". Yet they have more Hawaiian blood than any of those "so-called Hawaiian/Local braddahs"

Anyhow thanks for hearing me out.
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