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My cousin Paul DeSilva of Hilo, Hawaii



I spoke to my mother tonight and I asked her about our cousin anti-civil-rights-for-Hawaiians retired federal judge Paul DeSilva. Well it turns out that he was the only one who called my grandmother (his aunt) "Aunty." He also showed up at my grandmother's funeral. I don't remember any other of her nieces and nephews on the DeSilva side of the family showing up. I only remember him as being the only DeSilva niece or nephew of hers showing up. It's obvious that he respected my maternal grandmother (his aunt) who was part Hawaiian (Portuguese and Chinese too) who helped raise me in Hilo and in Keaukaha:


My Hilo Grandma, cousin Paul's aunt, who was fluent in the Hawaiian language and would always tell me, "Learn about the computer." I didn't understand what she was saying back then when I was a little girl though I do NOW. She taught me to eat poi, ake, aku palu, oio, crab, the list goes on.


He respected her. She only attended school to the eighth grade, raised me when my mother couldn't handle us (LOL), and taught me much of what I know and is the main reason why I graduated from college. Paul knows that I am her granddaughter and I know he respected her because he showed up at her funeral at Malia Puka O Kalani Church in Keaukaha which was the church she regularly attended. And yes... I know that he reads what I write about him *LOL* He is a very smart man... who respected my Hilo Grandma.




Should that or does that negate the racism that he has for the Hawaiian people?


I don't think so. In the Hawaiian culture we have what I call the "Kakou (or "Us... inclusive") Concept." That is, the Hawaiian people see themselves as an inclusive group rather than an exclusive individual (with the focus on the group not on the individual.) Therefore my conclusion is that his respect for my maternal grandmother does not negate his racism against Hawaiians. However I will try not to piss him off too much since he is 71 years old or so. He used to be a pilot too. Well I don't want him to have a heart attack even if he's pilau (or "rotten") to the Hawaiian people. The irony is that he has NO mercy for the Hawaiian people. None whatsoever yet our grandfather Ernesto was a great man. That is, a great man is a compassionate man whereas he (Paul) is not. He is, however, pilau to my Hawaiian "brothers" and "sisters" which is being pilau to me too and I'm a part of my maternal grandmother whom he respected yet only to find out that he disrespects her since he disrespects me. I really don't like it at all.

Like I told my mother... I wish I was not related to him. She asked me, "Why????" Uh... because he is anti-Hawaiian. I don't wanna be related to an anti-Hawaiian like him. Unfortunately I cannot choose my relatives but I still wish I was not related to him. At least he respected my grandma yet what about other Hawaiians? :(


* "Kakou" pronounced "kah-kou" can mean "We" inclusive three or more versus "au" which can be "me." That is what my Hilo Grandma (Paul's aunt) who was fluent in the Hawaiian language taught me. We... NOT me... so in my opinion... my Hilo Grandma (Paul's aunt) taught me well. And yes... I know that he knows who I am and that he reads what I write. That is exactly why I write about him.




Edit: I stand corrected and have discovered that my cousin Paul is not racist as I thought he was.




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nakai8
Mar. 14th, 2006 07:47 pm (UTC)
I no longer have any mercy for anyone. Whatever happens, HAPPENS! It is the will of the gods and we have no control over it. If it happens...then oh well! *L*
haolegirl
Mar. 14th, 2006 11:08 pm (UTC)
Okay I still cannot stop laughing *LOL*

girlstar808
Mar. 15th, 2006 03:18 pm (UTC)
Hey there,

Did you know that there were cases of embezzlement at Malia Puka O Kalani Church? Dayummmm! I did my own investigation thinking I would donate $$$ in her honor, but now - hell no! lol
haolegirl
Mar. 15th, 2006 06:23 pm (UTC)
I read about that too but at least cousin Paul spoke to you haha
Oh yeah... see you soon and kiss and SQUEEZE the angels for me.
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